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Why is it still so difficult to contact a psychologist or a psychologist?

16 April 2021 by Dr Letizia De Mori

Why is it still so difficult to contact a psychologist or a psychologist?

Never as in this historical moment profoundly marked by a global pandemic, with

consequent restrictions to protect the population, has shown a secondary and invisible effect: the

manifestation of fragility (which actually most likely were already present in more form

"Silent"). Every single individual has lived through difficult times for a year now,

perceiving the need for help, support to be able to "move forward", to be able to see and

start planning for the future again.

The desire to feel better arises precisely from the need to find a lost balance, with

mechanisms in continuous modulation and difficult to apply, a sort of daily effort

developed through constant self-assessments, but marked by profound frustration.

But because sometimes it is difficult to contact a professional figure such as that of the Psychologist e

of the Psychologist to be accompanied and supported in these difficult internal mediations?

Because in this new millennium in which physical, terrestrial and spatial limits have been exceeded,

the action linked to the will of a psychological support gets stuck within one

stereotype now a hundred years old?

Contacting a psychologist a psychologist is certainly difficult, but only from a point of view

awareness regarding the acceptance of the own discomfort; ask for help from a

professional is an important opportunity that the person gives himself not only to solve it

current problem, but also to learn their own adaptive, operational, thinking and mechanisms

reactive. A real investment in oneself to enrich oneself and get to know oneself in sometimes unknown aspects.

Often the mental effort that a person decides to undertake has a very high cost (in terms

of internal energy), as the step of asking for help is experienced as a personal failure e

it is not conceived as the necessity of needing new mental strategies.

At this point, therefore, the motivation linked to the difficulty in asking for help seems to be

upside down, that is, it no longer seems to be connected to the stereotypical figure of the Psychologist or the

Psychologist, but to a self-restriction that the human being (in particular and mostly males)

he shows for fear of showing his frailties, of losing his role, as explained by Seidman in the

2010, and subsequently from Mayer in 2018, studies in which the emphasis is placed takes care of the role

important given to Western education, which initiates children to assume attitudes

stoic and emotionally closed, consequently giving a negative point of view towards

opposite (positive) attitudes, because being empathic, showing emotions such as sadness, comes

considered as modest and feminine attitudes, and therefore fragile.

In a research carried out by Huang and from his research group in 2017, ask for help shows

a responsible openness and with good relationship skills.

It is clear at this point that giving a strong self image remains an important point a

social level, without considering the risk of triggering a sacrifice mechanism in one's own

confrontations, a sacrifice that includes body and mind.

Awareness, and acceptance. Keywords underlying each request for help.

Dr. Letizia De Mori

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